Mrs. Yates (The Response)

Dear Mrs Yates, 


First let me thank you for coming to me for advice and counseling. Secondly upon reading your letter I must tell you that never did you indicate that you tried talking to your husband. 


Communication is the key in any strong relationship. Once the doors of communication are closed, almost all hope is lost. Also if you haven't caught your husband cheating, you need to try your best to pull that from your mind. You seem to be putting everything on your husband, but when did he lose your trust?


Once a woman gets it in her mind that her spouse is cheating, she starts digging. More than likely when you do start digging you will find something (worthy or unworthy) to leave them for. Don't let that happen to you, don't let that happen to your marriage. Is your love or your husband not worth fighting for. I can't help the feeling from reading your letter that you have already given up. 


My advice:


#1: Talk to your husband, try to relate to how he's feeling. (serving alcohol doesn't hurt)
#2: LISTEN & COUNT TO 20 before responding... (if he has something on his chest, it may take him a while to reveal it)
#3: Have hot passionate sex! (that's also something you didn't indicate, but if he's never there, I can imagine it's lacking)


-Dr. Coe

Mrs. Yates (The Letter)

Dear Dr. Coe,


 I woke up this morning and when I didn't feel my husband by my side I wasn't surprised. He's probably cheating, but if asked he was working. It just dawned upon me last week, when I caught him in yet another lie, that I'm numb. I'm physically and mentally numb.  As soon as I got my balance together I went straight to the wet bar to finish the drink I started last night. Drinking had become something of a habit, but a comfort.


I've been married to ****** Yates for the past 8 years and for the last 2 years, I have been plotting his murder. For some reason I can't seem to pin point the exact time when things changed,  I guess that makes me a bad wife. But I have been there for my husband. There isn't anything that I haven't or that I wouldn't do for my husband. But now, I just don't feel that way.  I don't feel like we relate anymore. It's like when I look at him I see the man that I loved and married, but I don't know him.


I remember when I was a little girl, all I ever wanted was to have a family, and be a house wife. Now I have both but the man that I thought would always be there, has slowly drifted away. He keeps drifting and no matter how fast I run, I can't seem to catch him. I can't help but to be confused. I go to the gym 3x a week. I cook, I clean, I make sure the kids are taken care of. I can't help but to question what more I could have done in order to keep my husband..


-Mrs. Yates